Sister Wives, Sister Girls

I’m reading a book called “Mighty and Strong” and the underlying theme is polygamy.  I also watch Sister Wives on TLC.  That show is also about polygamy.  They are interesting in that they give a peek into a lifestyle that most of us would never experience because it is purely (supposedly) religious doctrine and, let’s be honest, would never go for even if it was not a religious concept.

Me, myself, personally – all three of us – say hell to the naw, Bobby, to the lifestyle that includes:

·        Sharing my husband in ALL ways (yes, you and I ARE on the same page…lies and confusion)

·        Sharing MY money, not just with my husband and our kids, but with my sister wives and their kids  (On Sister Wives, I get the impression that all the money goes into one pot and it gets distributed however regardless of who put in on it… and some of them don’t…lies and confusion)

·        Not having access to my husband unless it is my turn (ha! More lies and confusion)

·        My children not having access to their father unless it is our turn (I will say this.  If they live on a compound, like the ones we see on TV, this is probably not an issue, but on Sister Wives right now they live in separate houses so the father doesn’t see his kids every day…that’s more than lies and confusion; that’s that BS.)

·        Having to live with how many other wives he marries (On Sister Wives they supposedly help choose or cosign on the new wife but I’m not sure if that is 1. True or 2. How all of the husbands do it…again…lies and confusion)

·        Being “sealed” to a man on earth and in the afterlife (that is the religious part so I won’t comment)

So you see a lot of polygamy, for ME, is lies and confusion.

But isn’t polygamy just man-sharing, and don’t we have an epidemic of THAT in our society?  Sharing whether we know or not. Seeing him only on Monday, Wednesday and Thursday when you know he has a lot more free time.  Having a baby with him but only getting a few dollars and diapers but still some excuses for why he’s not over there changing them.  Letting him stay with you because he doesn’t have anywhere to say (really so he won’t be able to have any other women around…don’t lie).  Wondering why his phone is always on airplane mode when he’s with you (I heard that on Steve Harvey the other day!  I didn’t know people did that!!).  Letting him get away with having a side piece or (*gasp*choke*cough*) BEING the side piece.  Giving him 6 months to get rid of all his other women (heard that on Steve Harvey too!  Where they do that at?!?!?).  Rationalizing that it’s better to have a piece of a man than no man. 

Or lying to yourself that nothing is going on.

Oh yes, I’m telling on myself with some of these.  I’m naïve sometimes and I really want to think the best of people, even to my own detriment.  If you’ve read enough of these you should have picked up on that.

All right, confessions over.  Now what are we going to do about it?  Don’t ask me.  I just said I was a punk!  I need advice too.  What I promise myself, though, is that if a dude is not doing his best – or what I think his best should be – I’m calling him out.  And I’m making some stuff clear from the rip, especially that I want to TALK more than text.  (Yall know the dude who only texted me got the boot, right?)  So we’ll see.  As usual, I’ll keep you posted.

Note: I was told that this is one-sided but I figure that since this is my blog I can say what I want. What say you?