Settle To Settle Down

I asked this question on FaceBook and I pretty much got the answer that I expected: absolutely not.  Sorry I got ahead of myself.  Here is the question:

If you can’t be with the one you love, should you take the one that loves you?

 

Isn’t that basically settling to settle down?

Picture it: Paris, 2013.  Beautiful lady, let’s call her Desiree, meets two very nice men, Paul and Keith.  Paul is very kind, the kind of man that buys flowers, pull out chairs, has hearts in his eyes for her…but Desiree is not attracted to him physically, mentally, or emotionally.  She likes him…kind of…but definitely not “like that”.  He’d do anything for her but…no.  Not just no, but hell no.  Keith, on the other hand, meets all her requirements.  He is kind, compassionate, generous, makes her feel comfortable, is trying to improve himself, makes her want to improve herself, makes her laugh, laughs with but not at her…she has hearts in her eyes for him.  He has hearts in one eye for her but the other wanders.  So he, too, is a hell no.  (Who shares on purpose?)

Desiree wants to settle down, says she won’t settle…but is REALLY ready to settle down.  Paul offers most of what she wants and he could grow on her, right? (What is he, a fungus?)  She should give a nice man a chance…right?  Women are always talking about how they can’t find a good man, how men are dogs, how men don’t want to settle down, blahx3…and Paul is a good man, wants to settle down so he deserves a shot…right?  Keith, on the other hand…well she needs to let that dream go, right?  Or should she continue to build a friendship and maybe it will grow into something else…or maybe the friendship with grow into an even better friendship.  (It really, really is a good friendship that she would rather not lose in her quest for “something more”.)

I’m voting that Desiree not string Paul along.  I know I’ve NEVER had a man “grow on” me.  Maybe I’m mean – that’s possible – but I decide pretty quickly whether someone truly has a shot.  That may be why I’m still single…not giving it more time…but hell, if my toes don’t even twinkle, much like curl, when I think of sexytime with them, well, that’s a wrap.  Really, why bother?  (And PLEASE don’t act like you don’t envision that dude or that girl nekkid on date #1.  You can lie to me but don’t lie to yourself.)  I’m also voting that she fall back on Keith and let the friendship turn into whatever it is it will turn into.  Be her beautiful self, stay open but not but pressed.