A coworker/buddy of mine told me something really ignorant yesterday. Per an article her 53-year-old single sister sent her, ladies in New York are using online dating sites, like match.com, not to look for love exactly, but to supplement their food budget. In other words, meet men and get free meals. What the what? Is it that crucial? Are folks THAT broke that they would date random dudes just to get free food?
Even in college I was not into “free food”. Now, to be fair, I was not the hot chick in college so I didn’t have lots of opportunities to decide yes or no. Let’s just say I got better with age. (Ignore the flashback to my Spelman days snatch-back ponytail that I am sporting today. I will be getting my hair done tomorrow.) I’m called Single Lady for an obvious reason but you know what I’m saying. But I digress… I say I was not into “free food” because free food isn’t really “free”. Sure, it may not cost you money but it is not free. You may get to choose a place you cannot afford on your own but it’s not free. You may get to eat an entrée that you wouldn’t select if you had to pull out your own wallet but that meal is not really free.
You pay with your time. You pay with your energy. You pay with your attention. And if you don’t like the dude, the price just might be higher than the cost of the “free” food.
Well, that is what I think anyway. Maybe I’m just not nice…or just not nice enough to spend time with somebody I don’t like and smile about it. I can’t sit there with a dude, wishing I was somewhere – ANYWHERE – else, thinking “well, at least it’s free food”. Before I even get to that point, I can’t get to the point where I accept a date with a dude I am not attracted to just because I can get “free food”. (I’m still not the baddest b* out but I attract my fair share of ragamuffins.)
Am I neurotic? Is it just not that serious? Am I just mean and intolerant? Probably all of that, but dammit, I go to work everyday and I will eat microwave oatmeal, cheddar cheese rice cakes, granola bars, and KFC everyday just to avoid the not-really-free-food shenanigans.
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